Never compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.
My message today is a simple one. A brand of thinking that might help you let go of some of the ways that lead you to be stuck inside of a negative loop. We have all been there playing the same reel on repeat in our heads. A dangerous little game of comparisons.
Focus on You
Put in the Time
It is so easy to compare where you are right now with someone else on a different journey. Perhaps you are the same age or even younger. Yet you look at them, and wonder why you do not have what they have. They may have more money, a better job or be further along in their health and fitness pursuits. In reality, they have been plugging away at xy or z for 5 years, but you have just turned the corner on the 6 month mark. The why is very clear. They have simply been doing it longer than you. In most cases, the duration cannot be outwitted.
Not Just More
You may look at your goals in the eye and doubt that they will take as long as the average person. You vow to work longer. You vow to work harder. Except why do you think you are the first one to make these promises to the universe?
In reality, I have been working out for six years. That is my training age. It has no relation to my real age. When I see someone who is more capable I know their real secret to success. Maybe their effort and intensity is equal to mine. I am dedicated and I always show up. However, when it comes to time they have me trumped in spades. Any new project or endeavor is equally revealing. Your true age quickly shines through. Anything new has its highs and lows. The key to moving forward is concentrating on what is best for you – not worrying about a comparison that you have developed in your head. It leads nowhere.
Danger in Comparisons
In the dawn of social media it is so easy to fall into this tramp. You are seeing the highlights of someone else’s life. People rarely share the setbacks, losses or disappointments. You may start to feel like nothing is happening for you. You start to doubt yourself. This is a way of thinking that can lead you to your downfall.
Age is relative to the process. Wondering why you have to work harder is not worth you time. Instead of allowing your thoughts to wonder about someone else simply focus on you. If we all have limited energy stores why give away your limited ration to someone else? Headspace is something we often take for granted. If we allow ourselves to get wrapped up in the success of others than we will not have the energy to focus on ourselves. Some days might just feel like more of the same. That does not mean that nothing is happening. Comparisons are an indulgence you cannot afford.
Focus on You
You are unique. Your journey is yours alone. Keep your head down and only focus on the path in front of you. Everything else is irrelevant. Celebrate the success of others and learn what they did to get to where you want to go. There are no shortcuts that get you to the middle chapter. Be patient and diligent and your own progress will come to pass at the right time.
Always remember the universe is an unlimited place. 🙂
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